Luke 10:25-37
Radical Hospitality: Reaching Out-Welcoming In
James Sledge May
5, 2013
Many
of you know I had a previous career as a pilot. In the infancy of that career,
I found a weekend job flying skydivers at a parachute center, prompting me to
take up the sport myself. Contrary to some stereotypes, skydivers are not
oblivious to risk. Most are quite cautious about equipment and who to let on a jump
with them. A newcomer would have to prove his or her salt by occupying the
simplest and easiest position in the smallest of free-fall formations before
being allowed on larger or more difficult ones.
Free-fall
formations can sometimes be hard to keep stable, and you don’t want people who
don’t know what they’re doing running into them or knocking them askew. Because
of this concern for stability, there’s a protocol for how to enter a formation when
you arrive at it. Imagine a group of children holding hands in a circle on the
playground, and a new child wants to join. In the skydiving version, the new person
has to grab the people’s wrists where she wants to join the circle and try to pull
their hands apart. Only when the other jumpers feel this tug, will they release
their grips and allow that person in. We called it “breaking grips.”
This
requirement literally to break into the formation protected it and kept it from
flying apart if people had let go of their grips prematurely without insuring
that the new arrival could be trusted to help hold the thing together. For those
on the free-fall, this is a natural form of group self-preservation. And I’ve
seen a similar practice in church congregations.
It’s
often more prevalent in very small congregations that function almost like
families, but it can occur to lesser degrees in large congregations. When a new
person arrives, he may get a real sense of being an outsider, looking into a
circle where everyone has a strong grip on the person next to them. Very often,
it is a bit like a childhood game of Red Rover even to get noticed, much less
to become a full-fledged part of the congregation.