Matthew 3:13-17
Endings, Beginnings, and Pilgrim Journeys
James Sledge January
12, 2014 – Baptism of the Lord
Roger
Nishioka, professor of Christian Education at Columbia Theological Seminary and
former director of youth and young adult ministries for our denomination tells
a story that I assume comes from his time as a youth worker in a congregation.
Kyle
was nowhere to be found, and I missed him. In the weeks following his baptism
and confirmation on Pentecost Sunday, he was noticeably missing. Several other
members of the confirmation class asked about him too, as did his confirmation
mentor. Kyle and his family had come to the congregation when he was in the
fifth grade. They attended sporadically, so I was more than a little surprised
when I asked him and his parents if he was interested in joining the
confirmation class and they responded positively. In this congregation, the
confirmation class happened during the ninth-grade school year (as if God calls
all ninth-graders simultaneously to be confirmed, just because they are in the
ninth grade). Kyle and his parents came for the orientation meeting and agreed
to the covenant to participate in two retreats, a mission activity, work with a
mentor, and weekly classes for study and exploration. Kyle was serious in
attending and missed a class or event rarely. He quickly became a significant
part of the group and developed some wonderful friendships with other
ninth-graders who had barely known him. Since Kyle
had not yet been baptized, he was not only confirmed but also baptized on
Pentecost Sunday. It was a marvelous celebration for all the confirmands, their
families, and their mentors.
That
is pretty much where it ended. That is when I knew we had done something wrong.
When I checked in with Kyle and his folks, they all seemed a little surprised
that I was calling and checking up on them. I distinctly remember his mother
saying, “Oh, well, I guess I thought Kyle was all done. I mean, he was baptized
and confirmed and everything. Isn’t he done?”[1]
Kyle’s situation
is far from unique. It’s so common there’s even a joke about it. Several
pastors are having lunch together when one of them shares that they have an
infestation of bats in their steeple. The other pastors suggest a variety of
things that might rid them of this problem, but it seems they’ve all been tried
without success. Finally the Presbyterian pastors says, “We had that problem
and solved it. We enrolled all the bats in our confirmation class, and once it finished,
we never saw them again.”
For
some reason, church folks are often good at mixing up beginnings and endings.
It happens with confirmation. It happens with Christian education/formation
where people “graduate” from Sunday School when they graduate high school. And
more than a few parents come to have their children baptized – I’ve heard them
refer to it as “having the baby done” – then disappear entirely, another
beginning that got changed into an ending.